The sun shines down on my face, I walk steadily with my pup through my apartment complex. Children run and play, people pass me by I hold in my hand a beautiful wedding invitation. It’s absolutely gorgeous and elegant. I think to myself, man this is the third wedding in my family this year. I love weddings! I love celebrating love! As I load my pup into the car to head to the store my heart grows from excited for my cousin to a little voice in my head that says “Another wedding, another dateless wedding, you’re never going to find someone.” I turn up the radio to listen to some Britt Nicole and I go about my day.
Being in my mid-twenties and the last female cousin to not be married, I think it is normal to have those feelings. However, it becomes a problem when I start buying into the lies the enemy tries to tell me about being single. Singleness is definitely something that is not easy at times but when I think about my life I feel like I sometimes have put too much emphasis on the significance of having a significant other.
When it comes to who I am I am proud of who I have become. However, often times when people ask if I am dating someone a sense of shame comes over me when I reply no. Why is that? Why am I ashamed of not having a boyfriend or a husband? It is because somewhere I have bought into the lie that in order to have worth or to be accepted or liked more by others I need to be in a relationship. Our society puts so much pressure on us to date and we put so much pressure on ourselves as well. Ultimately God has a plan for everything I am going through singleness and all. He wants me to learn lessons, live life where I am at. If it’s in God’s will maybe I will get married but no matter what I have to know that my worth, and God’s love for me is not based on my relationship status. He loves me no matter what. My life is significant no matter if I ever get married or not.
As women, we all yearn for that great love story, but what we must remember is we are already apart of the greatest love story of all. We cannot fathom God’s love for us!
In Jeremiah 31:3 its say “I have loved you with an everlasting love”.
Did you read that? God loves you with an everlasting love! If that doesn’t make your heart flutter, I don’t know what will. We need to remember this. A boyfriend/husband is just an extra love, but God is our truest love. So if you have to attend another wedding by yourself, go to a work function, etc., know that God loves you more than anyone ever could.
Written By: Rebeccah