The other day I opened my memory box, I was searching for a birthday card. I have this weird thing I do if I see cards, I’ll buy them and hold onto them until it’s someone’s birthday. As I searched through a pile of cards at the bottom of the box a picture caught my attention. It was a picture of me and Chelsea. Chelsea is a girl I have literally known since preschool, we went to summer camp together and literally every birthday party we both had growing up. Our friendship had it’s ups and downs growing up, in high school we kind of went our separate ways, but by senior year we had reconnected and our friendship was stronger than ever.
One of the things, I loved most about our friendship was we could laugh and be silly. Chelsea and I would jam out in the car and I loved it. We would build each other up in Christ and constantly challenge each other to find Christ amid the circumstances. I honestly thought we would be friends forever. Well about two years ago, I can’t believe it’s been two years as I write this, my world changed. Grad school was ending, my parents had moved and I was about to embark on a new journey. A little before my new journey was about to begin, my friendship with her changed. We would go weeks without talking, she would not reply back to my messages and I wasn’t sure what was changing. As my move, out west was about to unfold, I wanted to see her one last time. However, that time never came. I could not believe I had lost a friend this way. What had I had done? What was wrong with me that she did not want to be my friend anymore?
I was so stunned that our friendship would end. I honestly had thought we would be lifetime friends. Over time, I have reached out to her and there was no response. How do you deal when friends just peace out of your life like this? It’s not easy but here are a few samples of what I learned.
As I close, I end with this, when my friendship with Chelsea ended, my heart was truly broken. I am still facebook friends with her until this day and she seems like she is doing amazing. I wish her all the best. I share this journey of losing my friend with you because I know it sucks losing your BFF and when big changes like that come your heart can really hurt. I hope you know that even though we will have a lot of friends that come and go, God will never leave us. He is our constant friend. So if you are in a place where you have a close friendship that has just been broken meditate on this verse: Hebrews: 13: 5 “I will never leave you nor forsake you.” So even though you have friends that will come and go, the truth of God boldly declares that he will never leave your side, so your relationship with Christ can never be lost. Be encouraged in this truth today!
Written By: Rebeccah