Smiles, laughter and goofiness. Deep talks and funny inside jokes. Best friends have those. Growing up I have had a few best friends. As years go by I have seen something that has become a progressive pattern, that being that friendships change. But that happens with life and time. But what is a girl to do if their current best friend ends their friendship. I hate to say this has happened to me. I hate to think that some of you have gone through this but I know you have. Losing a best is in some cases much harder than ending a romantic dating relationship. There are different ways to handling break ups with your boyfriend, one being spend a night with the girls. But what is a girl to do if a friendship ends.
All relationships change and friends come and go. As you grow schedules changes and a two to three week absence of a friend is normal. But what happens when you choose to dramatically unfriend someone? or vice versa When that friend is the person you text every day, they know your darkest secrets it can be a hard loss for anyone.
Here’s is why it can be so hard.
1. You don’t expect it
As girls when we are friends with others we don’t expect that we will loose a close friend. We think that are bond is strong enough to withstand anything. We can often think that “ I am sorry” will truly fix some problems when we offend. So when someone is not willing to forgive you after you have made the sincerest apology it can shocking. So feeling shocked that your friendship ends is okay. Its normal. It is okay to be upset. Its what you do with the unexpected emotions that will truly show the kind of person you are.
2. You were the real you with them
So after the shock of the unexpected loss sets in. You begin to think about what really went wrong. If they are a close friend you can also become worried because you were real with them. There is nothing worse than wishing you had not opened up to a friend and thinking they will tell others your secrets. It can also hurt because you were vulnerable and shared close things to your heart. It is okay to feel that way. It is normal and your feelings are valid. But do not let this one experience of opening up to someone and the relationship ending make you closed off from future friendships.
3. They were a constant companion to you
When you are best friends someone you spend a lot of time together. It’s hard when that friendship ends because you no longer have that constant companion or person you can text about your daily highs and lows. Getting used to life without that person can be hard and can take time to get used to not having that company.
4. It’s hard to tell people why it ended
When people ask you why a romantic relationship ended it is easy to say he wasn’t right for me. He wasn’t my type. You get the drift. But being asked as to why a friendship ended can be hard and confusing. Even if your friend betrayed you or you were the one that ended the friendship. It is hard to articulate to others about why it ended.
But be encouraged!!!! You will make more friends! God has filled this amazing world with great people in it. You just have to be open to the opportunity of building new friendships. Don’t let this one experience of losing a friend make you not open to other people that could bless your life and true friends. But know that in the place of losing friend that you have a constant friend in Jesus. He is always there for you and he will never let you down or leave you.
2. Deuteronomy 31:8a “ The Lord himself goes before you and will be with you; He will never leave you or forsake you.
Friends may come and go. Friends may leave you in the dust and betray you, but you serve a God who loves you so much and he will never leave you and he will be there with you. So as some of you may be hurting because of a broken friendship or another hurt in your life know that God is with you and he wants you to come to him with you hurts. So be encouraged sweet girl to go and make new friends and know that God is with you
Written by: Rebeccah