How to Overcome Your Past
I grew up with the belief that you weren’t supposed to talk about the bad things that happened, that you only talked about the good things—which only created a false reality along with a lot of shame and guilt. Because who doesn’t sin? Who is perfect?—There has only been one person to have walked this earth who was perfect and that was Jesus Christ. We live in a world full of imperfect people, who are all born sinners, who all do “bad things”—called sin. (sin is meeting a legitimate need in a illegitimate way)
When we only share with others the good things that we have done and leave out the “bad things”, then we are actually leaving out the most important part of our life—Jesus. So, when we don’t share with others (or even acknowledge) the “bad things” (our sins) from our past, what we are doing is saying that The Cross wasn’t enough, we’re not acknowledging what Jesus actually did for us on The Cross.
“From that moment on after humanity fell, all history led to a single hill outside Jerusalem, where God appointed a Savior to pay the penalty for people’s sin of rebellion. Though we justly deserve God’s anger because of the deliberate rebellion (our attempts to find security and purpose apart from HIM). His Son became our substitute, experienced the wrath our rebellion deserves, and paid the penalty for our sins. Christ’s death represents the most overwhelming evidence of God’s love for us. Because Christ paid for our sins, our relationship with God is restored. We can experience His nature and character, commune with Him, and reflect His love to all the world.” (Search for Significance by Robert McGee)
My entire life I had always tried to be “good” and “do the right thing”, but see when you are born a sinner but taught not to talk about the bad things, then that only causes an enormous amount of confusion, shame and guilt. Because I knew my own sin (even though I tried to be good), I also didn’t know, that no matter how hard I tried, I was never going to be good enough, because it wasn’t about me and what I did. It was about what HE did—on The Cross. I will never forget when that truth became real, the moment when my head and my heart connected with the reality that it had nothing to do with me and everything to do with HIM—Jesus dying on the Cross—that no matter what I did or didn’t do that God still loved me the same. Because HIS love is unconditional and unchanging—meaning HE loves us when we are at our worst the same as when we’re at “our best” (which is never). When I realized this truth, is when I began to see myself, my sins, my past and even my future all differently. All those things I grew up not talking about or feeling like I wasn’t supposed to talk about finally could be talked about, because those were the very things that Jesus suffered on The Cross for me to be able to live in eternity with The Father and that HE sees me exactly how HE sees Jesus—that I am counted as righteous.
The more you can speak of your past, the less power satan has over it. Satan doesn’t want you to share your past because he doesn’t want Jesus getting the Glory and that he will no longer have power over your past. One of satans biggest tactics is convincing us not to share our past. Because when we do share our past and share that because of Jesus’ death on the Cross that we aren’t defined by our past failures and mistakes, then we are giving Jesus the Glory that HE deserves and satan no longer has power over us in that area because we replaced what used to be covered in sin, shame, guilt, and we’ve now replaced it with the Blood of the The Lord Jesus Christ. “We will overcome by the Blood of the Lamb And the word of our testimony.” (Revelation 12:11) In order to overcome your past, you must be able to talk about it.
Truths to Remember: (I have these written on a notecard and keep it in my wallet)
· I am deeply loved by God (1John 4:9-10).
· I am completely forgiven and fully pleasing to God (Romans 5:1).
· I am totally accepted by God (Colossians 1:21-22).
· I am a new creation, absolutely complete in Christ (2 Corinthians 5:17).
False Beliefs: (I have these written on the other side of the notecard)
· I must meet certain standards to feel good about myself. (Fear of failure)
· I must have the approval of certain others to feel good about myself. (Fear of Rejection)
· Those who fail (including myself) are unworthy of love and deserve to be punished. (Guilt)
· I am who I am. I cannot change. I am hopeless. (Shame)
“But when the goodness and love for man appeared from God our Savior, HE saved us—not by works of righteousness that we had done, but according to His mercy, through the washing of regeneration and renewal by the Holy Spirit. This Spirit HE poured out on us abundantly through Jesus Christ our Savior, so that having been justified by HIS grace we may become heirs with the hope of eternal life.”
Written by: Jackye