Men are such a blessing to many of our lives. But sometimes there is that one guy that we as women should not be dating. Sometimes we don't see that this person is clearly not the one for us. Now I am not saying your has to be perfect because no guy is but there are some clear "Red Flags" we as girls should pay attention too. But a lot of the time we are to stubborn and think we know what is best for us. When really we are not paying attention because we are to captivated by our emotions and the way this person makes us feel that we are aware that flashing lights are going off. So below are a few reasons why you know you're dating the wrong guy!
1. Your parent's don't like him
Excuse: My parents don't know anything about him! My parents have screwed up relationships they would not like anyone I was to date! My parents are old and their opinions don't matter!
The statements above might be true. Parents can sometimes be annoying and we might feel as though they don't understand. Parents are not perfect people. Your parents might not have had any successful relationships or they might have been married for twenty plus years. Whatever, the circumstance atleast here your parents out. Listen to their concerns. They might be seeing something that you might not see. After all they are your parent they do want to see you happy.
The Bible says:
Proverbs 4:1 "Listen, my sons, to a father's instruction; pay attention and gain understanding."
Scripture states that we as children should pay attention to our parents wisdom. We should gain understanding about what their opinion is, respect that they are our parents, and know that they want what is best for us.
2. Your friends think he is all wrong for you
Excuse: They are jealous! They do not know him like I do!
Girlfriends can be catty and sometimes jealous because they do not want be single. They can make us sometimes feel like bad friends because we don't hang out with them 24/7. You are right they do not know him like you do! But do you TRUST your friends. Odds are that you do trust 99.5% of the people you consider your friends. So with that listen to what they have to say. If they think the guy you are dating is wrong for you listen to why they think so.
The godly give good advice to their friends; the wicked lead them astray.
Scripture states that godly friends give good advice and that others can lead astray. So if one of your true friends expresses concern 1. Here them out 2. Way their opinion 3. Figure out what to do with the advice.
3. He tears you down with his words
-Excuse- He doesn't mean them! I deserved it.
Boyfriends are amazing! They can say the sweetest thing but they can also be mean and tear you down. Disagreements are understandable that some words might hurt you. But if your boyfriend consistently tears you down with his words. You need to think about the way he is treating. You want a guy that treats you with the utmost respect. Words hurt! Do not stand for it.
Matthew 15:10-11 And he called the people to him and said to them, “Hear and understand: it is not what goes into the mouth that defiles a person, but what comes out of the mouth; this defiles a person.”
Proverbs 18:31 "Death and life are in the power of the tongue, and those who love it will eat its fruits."
Make sure your boyfriend respects you. If he does not break it off. A Christ-like man would not speak consistently like this.
4. He pushes your personal boundaries
Excuse- I'm ready! He is the one! I don't want to loose him.
Girl, if you say what is listed above. Pause. God loves you so much. If a guy pushes your personal boundaries and all he wants is SEX. He is not the guy for you. You want someone who will respect your values, boundaries and share the same boundaries.
1.Corinthians 6:18-20 Flee from sexual immorality. Every other sin a person commits is outside the body, but the sexually immoral person sins against his own body. Or do you not know that your body is a temple of the Holy Spirit within you, whom you have from God? You are not your own, for you were bought with a price. So glorify God in your body.
God created you to glorify him and your body is not your own. Glorify God with the decisions you make and the boundaries you set. Pray about this issue. Talk with your friends and family about this topic. It is very important.
5. He is not a Christian
Excuse: He goes to church isn't that okay? He respects my beliefs? He has great morals!
These statements above some of them are not bad. You do want someone who will go to church, you do want someone who will respect your beliefs. If a person has good morals that is good too. However, the person you date must have a relationship with Jesus Christ.
The Bible states in:
2. Corinthians 6:14 "Do not be unequally yoked with unbelievers. For what partnership has righteousness with lawlessness? Or what fellowship has light with darkness?"
This means that you need to be careful who you date. You want to make sure that the guy you date has the same beliefs that you. If he does not then as hard it may the relationship needs to end. It is definitely hard, especially if they are a wonderful person, have good morals and treat you like a princess. But you want to make sure that who you date will push toward Christ and not away from. He should challenge you to grow deeper in love with Jesus. He should also put his relationship with Christ before you because Christ is the most important foundation to any successful relationship.
If you want a lasting relationship make Jesus your foundation. Listen to your family and friends. Don't tolerate someone degrading you because you are a prized possession. Jesus loves you so much and he wants the best for you. So Do Not Settle. You are WORTH MORE! I hope you will consider these 5 reasons and also pray about what has been presented.
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Friends.... who comes to mind when you here the word friends. Most of the time when you hear the word friend or ask someone to define friendship someone will say: someone who is dependable, common interest, etc. Growing up I have heard these statements made about friendship "Your friendship is such a blessing in my life" "Friendship is so important to have!" "BFF".....
Okay so are the statements true? Is friendship really a blessings? Maybe it is a burden...
Why Friendships Are A Burden
1. You have to actually hear about other people's lives
2. You have to actually hang out with these people
3. You have to make sure you celebrate their birthday
4. You have to listen to them gab about all of the negative things about their day
5. You actually have to pick up your phone and text them
Man, these are heavy burdens to carry....................
Or are they Blessings?
Recently I have noticed people treating friendship as a burden instead of a blessing. It is so frustrating!! I get so mad to see people throw away such a precious gift that friendship is. The excuses of business, the excuses of not being an initiator, the excuses of not texting back your friends is pitiful! Have you really come to the point where you are to busy to send a text to your friend, but you can post an instagram picture? Really....?? If this is you... I challenge you to step back and think about what you are doing... you are throwing away some precious gifts, they are called FRIENDS!
The Lord created friendship to be such a blessing.
Many will say they are loyal friends, but who can find one who is truly reliable? (NLT)
- Do you consider yourself loyal? When a friend is in trouble do you have their back?
A friend is always loyal, and a brother is born to help in time of need. (NLT)
- When your friend is going through a hard time are you checking on them. A quick text, phone call, a coffee date would be such an encouragement to them.
As iron sharpens iron, so a friend sharpens a friend. (NLT)
Friendships make you a better person. If you are investing your life in business and not investing any time in building friends how are you going to grow?
Two people are better off than one, for they can help each other succeed. If one person falls, the other can reach out and help. But someone who falls alone is in real trouble. Likewise, two people lying close together can keep each other warm. But how can one be warm alone? A person standing alone can be attacked and defeated, but two can stand back-to-back and conquer. Three are even better, for a triple-braided cord is not easily broken. (NLT)
I LOVE THIS VERSE!!! TWO IS BETTER THAN ONE! I hope your getting my point. Friendship is such a blessing and life is not complete with out having good friends. If you have been a bad friend own up to it and start trying to change your ways. Instead of treating your friends like a burden, treat them like gold! When you go through hard times you will need them, when you have an awesome accomplishment you will want them their celebrating with you. If you expect your friends to make time for you, or help you in a time of need, treat them like they treat you. Friendships are valuable and to throw friendships away because your to lazy to invest in the friendship is wrong and is not of Christ.
I challenge you this week to pick up the phone and schedule a coffee date, or call a friend and ask how their life is going! I promise you won't regret it!!!
Come on TRUE FRIENDS STAND UP AND BE A FRIEND!!!!!!!!!
by Anna Wright